MAY KARAPATAN BA ANG BABAE NA TUMANGGI O AYAW NA MAGPAKASAL?
Tanong:
May
karapatan ba ang babae na tumanggi o ayaw na magpakasal kahit gustuhin man ng
mga magulang nito ipakasal sa lalake?Lalo na't ang babae ay hindi niya tiyak na
ang lalake ay nanampalataya sa Allah. Ipinahintulot ba ang child
wedding/arranged marriage?
Sagot:
Mayroon
pong karapatan mga kapatid ang babae na tanggihan ang sinumang lalake na ayaw
niyang pakasalan kahit pa boto dito ang kanyang pamilya o kamag-anak.
Ang
pahintulot o pagpayag ng babae ay isa sa haligi ng nikah o kasal sa Islam. Ibig
sabihin hindi tanggap ang kasal o invalid ito kapag walang pahintulot o ayaw ng
babae ang ikasal siya sa hindi nito gusto.
👇👇👇
Narrated
AbuHurayrah:
"The
Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) said: An orphan virgin girl should be consulted
about herself; if she says nothing that indicates her permission, but if she
refuses, the authority of the guardian cannot be exercised against her
will."
(Sunan
Abu-Dawud, Marriage (Kitab Al-Nikah), Book 11, Number 2088)"
Narrated
Abdullah ibn Umar:
"The
Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) said: Consult women about (the marriage of) their
daughters."
( Sunan
Abu-Dawud, Marriage (Kitab Al-Nikah), Book 11, Number 2090)"
Narrated
Abdullah ibn Abbas:
"A
virgin came to the Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) and mentioned that her father
had married her against her will, so the Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) allowed
her to exercise her choice."
(Sunan
Abu-Dawud, Marriage (Kitab Al-Nikah), Book 11, Number 2091)"
Abu Huraira
(Allah be pleased with him) reported Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him)
as having said: "A woman without a husband (or divorced or a widow) must
not be married until she is consulted, and a virgin must not be married until
her permission is sought. They asked the Prophet of Allah (may peace be upon
him): How her (virgin's) consent can be solicited? He (the Holy Prophet) said:
That she keeps silence. (Translation of
Sahih Muslim, The Book of Marriage (Kitab Al-Nikah), Book 008, Number
3303)"
🌿ANG TANGGAP PO NA KASAL AY YAONG PAREHAS NA GUSTO NG
MAGULANG (WALI) AT NG KANILANG ANAK NA BABAE...kaya po oras na tanggihan ng
babae ang lalake ay nararapat na huwag siyang pilitin bagkus ang ama
(wali/guardian) ay magdadala muli ng mabuting lalake hanggang sa dumating ang
qadar o takda ng Allâh na maibigan ito ng babae at gayundin ng mga magulang
(wali/guardian).
Ang
pagpayag o pahintulot ng ama (wali/guardian) ay isa ring haligi sa kasal o
nikah na kung saan hindi valid ang kasal kahit pa gusto ng babae ang isang lalake
kung ayaw ng mga magulang nito. MALIBAN NA LAMANG KUNG ANG BABAE AY ISANG BALO
O DATI NA ITONG NAKASAL NOON kaya't siya ay maaring magdesisyon kahit walang
pahintulot ng kanyang wali o guardian.
👇👇👇
The Prophet
(peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said:
“There is no marriage except with a wali
(guardian).”
Narrated by
Abu Dawood (2085), al-Tirmidhi (1101) and Ibn Majaah (1881)
Narrated
Abdullah ibn Abbas: "The Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) said: A guardian has
no concern with a woman previously married and has no husband, and an orphan
girl (i.e. virgin) must be consulted, her silence being her acceptance.
(Sunan
Abu-Dawud, Marriage (Kitab Al-Nikah), Book 11, Number 2095)"
And he
(peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said:
“Any woman
who gets married without the permission of her guardian, her marriage is
invalid, her marriage is invalid, her marriage is invalid.” Narrated by Ahmad
(24417), Abu Dawood 92083) and al-Tirmidhi (1102).
Sinumang
babae na ipilit niya ang sariling makasal sa isang lalake o siya ang
nakikipagkasundo ng kasal sa isang lalake na walang pahintulot o kaalam-alam
ang kanyang ama (wali/guardian) ay isang prostitute na babae...
The Prophet
(peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “No woman may conduct the marriage
contract of another woman, and no woman can conduct the marriage contract on
behalf of her own self, because the zaaniyah (fornicatress, adulteress) is the
one who arranges things on her own behalf.”
(Reported
by Ibn Maajah, 1782; see also Saheeh al-Jaami’, 7298)
Tandaan din
po natin na ang ARRANGED MARRIAGE PARA SA MGA BATA ay BAWAL!!! Maaring
ikinulong mo siya sa babae o lalaki na ayaw niya at kinasusuklaman niya sa
hinaharap at walang ibang sisihin kundi ang mga magulang!!!
Ang mga tao
na wala talagang sapat na kakayanang magtaguyod ng pamilya dahil hindi nila
mabigyan ng sustento ang mismong kanilang mga sarili ay nararapat maghintay ng
panahon na makaipon para makapag-asawa.
Ang Allah
ay nagwika:
وَلْيَسْتَعْفِفِ
الَّذِينَ لَا يَجِدُونَ نِكَاحًا حَتَّىٰ يُغْنِيَهُمُ اللَّهُ مِنْ فَضْلِهِ ۗ
"And
let those who cannot find someone to marry maintain chastity until Allah makes
them rich through His favours ..."(Surah 24, Verse 33)
The
Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, has advised those who cannot afford
marriage to fast, saying:
"O
youth, WHOEVER OF YOU IS ABLE TO MARRY, let him marry, for it prevents
forbidden stares or lapsing in adultery. And IF HE CANNOT MARRY, LET HIM
OBSERVE FASTING, for it is a shield against evil."
(Sahih
Al-Bukhari, Sahih Muslim)
Thus, one
must not resort to evil, sin or illicit sexual relationships because they
cannot find a permanent spouse.
MALINAW NA
MAGING ANG LALAKI O BABAENG NASA KASAPATAN NA ANG GULANG AY HINDI BASTA-BASTA
MAKASAL O MAG-ASAWA DAHIL SA RESPONSIBILIDAD KAYA'T INUTUSANG MAG-AYUNO...
ANG MGA
BATA PA KAYA NA SILA MISMO AY PINAPAKAIN, NAKIKITIRA, HINDI MAALAGAAN ANG
MISMONG MGA SARILI AT NANGANGAILANGAN NG ARUGA AT NASA PAG-IINGAT NG MGA
MAGULANG NITO????
MAGING ANG
BINATA AT DALAGA AY HINDI PUEDENG PILITING IPAKASAL NA BATAY LAMANG sa desisyon
ng ina nito...at gayundin bawal na ipakasal ng ama ang anak nitong babae na
wala itong pahintulot!
👇👇👇
Abu Huraira
(Allah be pleased with him) reported Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him)
as having said: "A woman without a husband (or divorced or a widow) must
not be married until she is consulted, and A VIRGIN MUST NOT BE MARRIED UNTIL
HER PERMISSION IS SOUGHT. They asked the Prophet of Allah (may peace be upon
him): How her (virgin's) consent can be solicited? He (the Holy Prophet) said:
That she keeps silence."
---(Sahih
Muslim, The Book of Marriage (Kitab Al-Nikah).
Allah
Almighty said in the Noble Quran:
يٰٓأَيُّهَا
الَّذِينَ ءَامَنُوا لَا يَحِلُّ لَكُمْ أَنْ تَرِثُوا النِّسَآءَ كَرْهًا ۖ
وَلَا تَعْضُلُوهُنَّ لِتَذْهَبُوا بِبَعْضِ مَآ ءَاتَيْتُمُوهُنَّ
إِلَّآ أَنْ يَأْتِينَ بِفٰحِشَةٍ مُّبَيِّنَةٍ
ۚ وَعَاشِرُوهُنَّ
بِالْمَعْرُوفِ ۚ فَإِنْ كَرِهْتُمُوهُنَّ فَعَسٰىٓ أَنْ
تَكْرَهُوا شَيْئًا وَيَجْعَلَ اللَّهُ فِيهِ خَيْرًا كَثِيرًا
"O ye
who believe! YE ARE FORBIDDEN TO INHERIT WOMEN AGAINST THEIR WILL. Nor should
ye treat them with harshness, that ye may take away part of the dower [money
given by the husband to the wife for the marriage contract] ye have given them,
except where they have been guilty of open lewdness; on the contrary live with
them on a footing of kindness and equity. If ye take a dislike to them it may
be that ye dislike a thing, and God brings about through it a great deal of
good." (The Noble Quran 4:19)
The
following Saying is an explanation to Noble Verse 4:19:
Narrated
Abdullah ibn Abbas: "About the Qur'anic verse:
'It is not
lawful for you forcibly to inherit the woman (of your deceased kinsmen), nor
(that) ye should put constraint upon them.' When a man died, his relatives had
more right to his wife then her own guardian. If any one of them wanted to
marry her, he did so; or they married her (to some other person), and if they
did not want to marry her, they did so. So this verse was revealed about the
matter."
(Sunan
Abu-Dawud, Marriage (Kitab Al-Nikah), Book 11, Number 2084)" So according to Noble Verse 4:19, a woman can
not be forced into marriage by any mean.
ANG
PAGPAPAKASAL PO AY HINDI LAMANG PO NAKATUON SA RITWAL kundi kaakibat nito ang
kahandaan sa:
🌺1. katawan (baligh or balaghat reaching the age of
puberty where sexual maturity becomes manifest by having menses or seminal
ejaculation);
🌺2. ang hinog o tamang pag-iisip (rushd o intellectual
maturity) na kung saan makapagbigay siya ng sariling desisyon o tamang
pagpapasya.
🌺3. at kakayahang magpasan ng responsibilidad ng buhay
may asawa o maging ama o ina ng kanyang magiging supling.
Maging ang
kanilang mana o ari-ariang nakapangalan sa kanila kung meron man ay hindi pa
ito maipagkatiwala sa bata lalo na kapag ulila dahil sa hindi hinog/matured na
pag-iisip upang ingatan ito.
👇👇👇
Allah
Almighty says:
وَابْتَلُوا
الْيَتٰمٰى حَتّٰىٓ إِذَا بَلَغُوا النِّكَاحَ فَإِنْ ءَانَسْتُمْ مِّنْهُمْ
رُشْدًا فَادْفَعُوٓا إِلَيْهِمْ أَمْوٰلَهُمْ
ۖ وَلَا تَأْكُلُوهَآ إِسْرَافًا
وَبِدَارًا أَنْ يَكْبَرُوا ۚ وَمَنْ كَانَ غَنِيًّا فَلْيَسْتَعْفِفْ ۖ
وَمَنْ كَانَ فَقِيرًا فَلْيَأْكُلْ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ ۚ
فَإِذَا دَفَعْتُمْ إِلَيْهِمْ أَمْوٰلَهُمْ فَأَشْهِدُوا عَلَيْهِمْ ۚ
وَكَفٰى بِاللَّهِ حَسِيبًا
"And
test the orphans [in their abilities] until they reach marriageable age. Then
if you perceive in them sound judgement, release their property to them. And do
not consume it excessively and quickly, [anticipating] that they will grow up.
And whoever, [when acting as guardian], is self-sufficient should refrain [from
taking a fee]; and whoever is poor - let him take according to what is
acceptable. Then when you release their property to them, bring witnesses upon
them. And sufficient is Allah as Accountant."
(QS.
An-Nisaa: Verse 6)
MALINAW MGA
KAPATID NA WALA PONG CHILD WEDDING/ARRANGED MARRIAGE SA ISLAM AT LABAG ITO SA
ITAAS NA MGA BATAYAN!!!SAMAKATUWID ITO AY HARAM AT ISANG URI NG KASALAN-KASALAN
(INVALID NA KASAL) DAHIL ISA ITONG PAGLALARO AT PANG-IINSULTO SA BATAS NG DAKILANG
LUMIKHA.
👇👇👇
Allah
Almighty says:
وَلَا تَتَّخِذُوٓا
ءَايٰتِ اللَّهِ هُزُوًا ۚ وَاذْكُرُوا نِعْمَتَ اللَّهِ عَلَيْكُمْ
وَمَآ أَنْزَلَ عَلَيْكُمْ مِّنَ الْكِتٰبِ وَالْحِكْمَةِ يَعِظُكُمْ بِهِۦ ۚ
وَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ وَاعْلَمُوٓا أَنَّ اللَّهَ بِكُلِّ شَىْءٍ عَلِيمٌ
"...
And do not take the verses of Allah in jest. And remember the favor of Allah
upon you and what has been revealed to you of the Book and wisdom by which He
instructs you. And fear Allah and know that Allah is Knowing of all things."
(QS.
Al-Baqara: Verse 231)
...and
Allâh Almighty knows best!
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