ANONG HATOL SA ISANG ANAK O TAO NA NAKIKIPAGTALO, NAKIKIPAG-AWAY, BASTOS O SINASAGOT NIYA ANG KANIYANG MGA MAGULANG O BIYENAN O NAKAKATANDA?
Anong hatol
sa isang anak o tao na nakikipagtalo, nakikipag-away, bastos o sinasagot niya
ang kaniyang mga magulang o biyenan o nakakatanda?
Sagot:
Tungkulin
po ng magulang na payuhan, disiplinahin, ituwid, at parusahan sa makatwirang
paraan ang kanilang sariling anak kung ito'y matigas ang ulo at nagpapakita ng
hindi magandang asal...
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Prophet
Muhammadﷺ said:
“ مَا نَحَلَ وَالِدٌ وَلده مِنْ نَحْلٍ
أَفْضَلَ مِنْ أَدَبٍ حَسَنٍ”
‘Maa Nahala
Waalidun Waladahu Min Nahlin Afdhala Min Adabin Hasanin.’
There is no
gift that a father gives his child more virtuous than good manners.”
(Sunan
Tirmidhi, Hadith: 1952/4977)
Ang
sinumang anak na suwail, bastos at ayaw makinig sa mabuting payo o pangaral ng
kanyang mga magulang lalo na kung ang mga magulang niya ay Muslim...then tunay
na ito ay hindi nila tunay na anak sa paningin ng Allah!!!
Ibinigay na
halimbawa ng Allah ang patungkol kay Propeta Noah at isa sa kanyang anak!!!
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Allah
Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala said:
وَهِىَ تَجْرِى
بِهِمْ فِى مَوْجٍ كَالْجِبَالِ وَنَادٰى نُوحٌ ابْنَهُۥ وَكَانَ فِى مَعْزِلٍ
يٰبُنَىَّ ارْكَب مَّعَنَا وَلَا تَكُنْ مَّعَ الْكٰفِرِينَ قَالَ سَئَاوِىٓ إِلٰى
جَبَلٍ يَعْصِمُنِى مِنَ الْمَآءِ ۚ
قَالَ لَا عَاصِمَ الْيَوْمَ مِنْ أَمْرِ اللَّهِ إِلَّا مَنْ رَّحِمَ ۚ وَحَالَ بَيْنَهُمَا الْمَوْجُ فَكَانَ مِنَ
الْمُغْرَقِينَ
And it
sailed with them through waves like mountains, and Noah called to his son who
was apart [from them], "O my son, come aboard with us and be not with the
disbelievers."
[But] he
said, "I will take refuge on a mountain to protect me from the
water." [Noah] said, "There is no protector today from the decree of
Allah, except for whom He gives mercy." And the waves came between them,
and he was among the drowned.
(QS. Hud
11: Verse 42-43)
وَنَادٰى نُوحٌ
رَّبَّهُۥ فَقَالَ رَبِّ إِنَّ ابْنِى مِنْ أَهْلِى وَإِنَّ وَعْدَكَ الْحَقُّ
وَأَنْتَ أَحْكَمُ الْحٰكِمِينَ قَالَ يٰنُوحُ إِنَّهُۥ لَيْسَ مِنْ أَهْلِكَ ۖ إِنَّهُۥ عَمَلٌ غَيْرُ صٰلِحٍ ۖ فَلَا تَسْئَلْنِ مَا لَيْسَ لَكَ بِهِۦ
عِلْمٌ ۖ إِنِّىٓ أَعِظُكَ أَنْ تَكُونَ
مِنَ الْجٰهِلِينَ
"And
Noah called to his Lord and said, My Lord, indeed my son is of my family; and
indeed, Your promise is true; and You are the most just of judges!"
He said,
"O Noah, INDEED HE IS NOT OF YOUR FAMILY; indeed, he is [one whose] work
was other than righteous, so ask Me not for that about which you have no
knowledge. Indeed, I advise you, lest you be among the ignorant."
(QS. Hud
11: Verse 45-46)
يٰٓأَيُّهَا
الَّذِينَ ءَامَنُوٓا إِنَّ مِنْ أَزْوٰجِكُمْ وَأَوْلٰدِكُمْ عَدُوًّا لَّكُمْ
فَاحْذَرُوهُمْ ۚ وَإِنْ تَعْفُوا
وَتَصْفَحُوا وَتَغْفِرُوا فَإِنَّ اللَّهَ غَفُورٌ رَّحِيمٌ
"O you
who have believed, indeed, AMONG YOUR WIVES AND YOUR CHILDREN ARE ENEMIES TO
YOU, SO BEWARE OF THEM. But if you pardon and overlook and forgive - then
indeed, Allah is Forgiving and Merciful."
(QS.
At-Taghaabun 64: Verse 14)
Ang
sinumang tao na sangkot sa ganitong uri ng kasalanan ay mag-aani ng sari-saring
kaparusahan dito sa mundo at kabilang buhay mula sa Allâh kapag hindi nito
itinigil at makapagsisi ng tapat.
Ang ilan sa
atraso o kasalanan ng tao na naninira o nakikipag-away sa kanyang magulang o
biyenan ay ang mga sumusunod:
🌺1. Kawalang respeto sa mas nakakatanda (siya ay
nanganganib na hindi rin irerespeto sa kanyang pagtanda)...
Anas ibn
Malik (may Allah be pleased with him) narrated that the Prophet (peace and
blessings be upon him) said,“If a young man honors an elderly on account of his
age, Allah appoints someone to honor him in his old age.”
(At-Tirmidhi)
Abdullah
ibn Amr reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him,
said, “He who does not show mercy to our young ones or recognize the rights of
our elders is not one of us.”
Source:
Musnad Aḥmad.
Abu Musa
Al-Ash`ari (may Allah be pleased with him) narrated that the Prophet (peace and
blessings be upon him) said, “It is out of reverence to Allah to respect the
white-headed (aged) Muslim.”
(Abu Dawud)
🌺2. Kawalang respeto sa magulang o biyenan bilang
ikalawa niyang magulang...
Allah
Almighty says:
وَقَضٰى رَبُّكَ
أَلَّا تَعْبُدُوٓا إِلَّآ إِيَّاهُ وَبِالْوٰلِدَيْنِ إِحْسٰنًا ۚ
إِمَّا يَبْلُغَنَّ عِنْدَكَ الْكِبَرَ أَحَدُهُمَآ أَوْ كِلَاهُمَا فَلَا
تَقُل لَّهُمَآ أُفٍّ وَلَا تَنْهَرْهُمَا وَقُل لَّهُمَا قَوْلًا كَرِيمًا
"And
your Lord has decreed that you not worship except Him, AND TO PARENTS, GOOD
TREATMENT. Whether one or both of them reach old age [while] with you, SAY NOT
TO THEM [SO MUCH AS], "UFF," and DO NOT REPEL THEM but speak to them
a noble word."
(Quran S.
Al-Israa: Verse 23)
وَوَصَّيْنَا
الْإِنْسٰنَ بِوٰلِدَيْهِ حَمَلَتْهُ أُمُّهُۥ وَهْنًا عَلٰى وَهْنٍ وَفِصٰلُهُۥ
فِى عَامَيْنِ أَنِ اشْكُرْ لِى وَلِوٰلِدَيْكَ إِلَىَّ الْمَصِيرُ وَإِنْ جٰهَدَاكَ
عَلٰىٓ أَنْ تُشْرِكَ بِى مَا لَيْسَ لَكَ بِهِۦ عِلْمٌ فَلَا تُطِعْهُمَا ۖ وَصَاحِبْهُمَا فِى الدُّنْيَا
مَعْرُوفًا ۖ وَاتَّبِعْ سَبِيلَ مَنْ
أَنَابَ إِلَىَّ ۚ ثُمَّ إِلَىَّ
مَرْجِعُكُمْ فَأُنَبِّئُكُمْ بِمَا كُنْتُمْ تَعْمَلُونَ
"And
We have ENJOINED UPON MAN [CARE] FOR HIS PARENTS. His mother carried him,
[increasing her] in weakness upon weakness, and his weaning is in two years. Be
grateful to Me and to your parents; to Me is the [final] destination. But if
they endeavor to make you associate with Me that of which you have no
knowledge, do not obey them but accompany them in [this] world with appropriate
kindness and follow the way of those who turn back to Me [in repentance]. Then
to Me will be your return, and I will inform you about what you used to
do."
(Qur'an S.
Luqman 31: Verse 14-15)
وَوَصَّيْنَا
الْإِنْسٰنَ بِوٰلِدَيْهِ إِحْسٰنًا ۖ
حَمَلَتْهُ أُمُّهُۥ كُرْهًا وَوَضَعَتْهُ كُرْهًا ۖ وَحَمْلُهُۥ وَفِصٰلُهُۥ ثَلٰثُونَ
شَهْرًا ۚ حَتّٰىٓ إِذَا بَلَغَ أَشُدَّهُۥ
وَبَلَغَ أَرْبَعِينَ سَنَةً قَالَ رَبِّ أَوْزِعْنِىٓ أَنْ أَشْكُرَ نِعْمَتَكَ
الَّتِىٓ أَنْعَمْتَ عَلَىَّ وَعَلٰى وٰلِدَىَّ وَأَنْ أَعْمَلَ صٰلِحًا تَرْضٰىهُ
وَأَصْلِحْ لِى فِى ذُرِّيَّتِىٓ ۖ إِنِّى
تُبْتُ إِلَيْكَ وَإِنِّى مِنَ الْمُسْلِمِينَ أُولٰٓئِكَ الَّذِينَ نَتَقَبَّلُ
عَنْهُمْ أَحْسَنَ مَا عَمِلُوا وَنَتَجَاوَزُ عَنْ سَيِّئَاتِهِمْ فِىٓ أَصْحٰبِ
الْجَنَّةِ ۖ وَعْدَ الصِّدْقِ الَّذِى
كَانُوا يُوعَدُونَ
"And
We have enjoined upon man, to his parents, GOOD TREATMENT. His mother carried
him with hardship and gave birth to him with hardship, and his gestation and
weaning [period] is thirty months. [He grows] until, when he reaches maturity
and reaches [the age of] forty years, he says, My Lord, enable me to be
grateful for Your favor which You have bestowed upon me and upon my parents and
to work righteousness of which You will approve and make righteous for me my
offspring. Indeed, I have repented to You, and indeed, I am of the
Muslims." Those are the ones from whom We will accept the best of what
they did and overlook their misdeeds, [their being] among the companions of
Paradise. [That is] the promise of truth which they had been promised.
(Qur'an S.
Al-Ahqaf 46: Verse 15-16)
🌺3. Paninirang puri sa tao o kapwa Muslim...
Allah says:
يٰٓأَيُّهَا
الَّذِينَ ءَامَنُوا اجْتَنِبُوا كَثِيرًا مِّنَ الظَّنِّ إِنَّ بَعْضَ الظَّنِّ
إِثْمٌ ۖ
وَلَا تَجَسَّسُوا وَلَا يَغْتَب بَّعْضُكُمْ بَعْضًا ۚ
أَيُحِبُّ أَحَدُكُمْ أَنْ يَأْكُلَ لَحْمَ أَخِيهِ مَيْتًا
فَكَرِهْتُمُوهُ ۚ وَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ ۚ
إِنَّ اللَّهَ تَوَّابٌ رَّحِيمٌ
"O you
who have believed, avoid much [negative] assumption. Indeed, some assumption is
sin. And do not spy or backbite each other. Would one of you like to eat the
flesh of his brother when dead? You would detest it. And fear Allah; indeed,
Allah is Accepting of repentance and Merciful."
(Quran S.
Al-Hujuraat: Verse 12)
🌺4. Kawalan ng mabuting asal sa kapwa...
The
Messenger of Allah (peace and blessing of Allah be upon him) said:
"Be
conscious of Allah wherever you are. Follow the bad deed with a good one to
erase it, and engage others with beautiful character."
Related by
Tirmidhi.
🌺5. Ang pang-aabuso sa kapwa tao o isang Muslim sa dila
(pananalita)...
The Prophet
(peace be upon him) said:
“The
believer is not a slanderer, one who curses a great deal, one who indulges in
obscenity or who in engages in foul talk.”
(Tirmidhi–
saheeh by al-Albaani)
Si Propeta
Muhammadﷺ ay nagsabi: "A Muslim is one from
whose tongue and hand Muslims are safe." – Sahih Bukhari.
The Prophet
said, "Abusing a Muslim is Fusuq (an evil doing) and killing him is Kufr
(disbelief)."
---Bukhari.
🌺6. Pagputol nito sa ugnayang pagkakamag-anakan sapagkat
ang pakikipagtalo nito sa magulang o biyenan ay tiyakang maapektuhan ang
relasyon ng asawa nito sa kanyang sariling mga magulang...dahilan din ito upang
mahirapan ang Muslim na pumasok sa Paraiso!!!
Allah says:
فَهَلْ عَسَيْتُمْ
إِنْ تَوَلَّيْتُمْ أَنْ تُفْسِدُوا فِى الْأَرْضِ وَتُقَطِّعُوٓا أَرْحَامَكُمْ
أُولٰٓئِكَ الَّذِينَ لَعَنَهُمُ اللَّهُ فَأَصَمَّهُمْ وَأَعْمٰىٓ أَبْصٰرَهُمْ
"So
would you perhaps, if you turned away, cause corruption on earth and sever your
[ties of] relationship? Those [who do so] are the ones that Allah has cursed,
so He deafened them and blinded their vision."
(QS.
Muhammad: Verses 22-23)
Ang Propeta
Muhammadﷺ ay nagsabi: "Ang iyong Paraiso ay
nasa ilalim ng paanan ng iyong ina..."
---Ahmad at
Annasaa'i.
A man came
to the Prophet and said, ‘O Messenger of God! Who among the people is the most
worthy of my good companionship? The Prophet said: Your mother. The man said,
‘Then who?' The Prophet said: Then your mother. The man further asked, ‘Then
who?' The Prophet said: Then your mother. The man asked again, ‘Then who?' The
Prophet said: Then your father. (Bukhari, Muslim).
🌺7. Ang kawalan nito ng pagpapahalaga sa pagkakasundo ng
tao o Muslim (kaya nasa panganib na hindi siya papasukin agad ng Allâh sa
Paraiso sa kabilang buhay)...
The Prophet
(peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “The gates of Paradise are
opened on Monday and Thursday, and everyone who does not associate anything
with Allah is forgiven, EXCEPT A MAN WHO HAS HAD AN ARGUMENT WITH HIS BROTHER.
It is said: ‘WAIT FOR THESE TWO UNTIL THEY RECONCILE, wait for these two until
they reconcile, wait for these two until they reconcile.” Narrated by Muslim.
Nararapat
na ang mas bata ang unang bumati, magpakumbaba at humingi ng kapatawaran kahit
na siya pa ang tama!
Abu
Hurairah (may Allah be pleased with him) narrated that the Prophet (peace and
blessings be upon him) said, “The young should (initiate) salutation to the
old, the passerby should (initiate) salutation to the sitting one, and the
small group of persons should (initiate) salutation to the large group of
persons.”
(Al-Bukhari)
Abu Umamah
reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said:
أَنَا زَعِيمٌ
بِبَيْتٍ فِي رَبَضِ الْجَنَّةِ لِمَنْ تَرَكَ الْمِرَاءَ وَإِنْ كَانَ مُحِقًّا
"I
guarantee a house on the outskirts of Paradise for one who abandons arguments
even if he is right." Sunan Abu Dawud.
🌺8. Kawalan ng pasensya at pagpipigil ng galit...
The Prophet
(peace be upon him) advised us not to speak when we are angry. He said: “If one
of you gets angry, he should be quiet.” [ Musnad Ahmad ]
Abu
Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported:
The Prophet
(ﷺ) said, "He who believes in Allah and
the Last Day must either speak good or remain silent."[Muslim].
The
Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, "The strong man is not one who
is good at wrestling, but the strong man is one who controls himself in a fit
of rage."
[Al-Bukhari
and Muslim].
Alalahanin
po natin na anumang pagtatalo o di pagkakaunawaan ay maaring sinusubukan lamang
tayo ng Allah gamit ang mga tao na nakapaligid sa atin (lalo na ang kamag-anak)
upang ipakita hanggang saan ang ating pasensya at pakikitungo ng mabuti sa
kabila ng sitwasyong ito. Pipigilan ba natin ang ating galit at mga kamay na
manakit? Palalagpasin, magpapakumbaba at magpapatawad ba tayo?
God
Almighty Allahﷻ says:
وَجَزٰٓؤُا
سَيِّئَةٍ سَيِّئَةٌ مِّثْلُهَا ۖ فَمَنْ عَفَا وَأَصْلَحَ فَأَجْرُهُ ۥ عَلَى اللَّهِ
ۚ إِنَّهُ ۥ لَا يُحِبُّ الظّٰلِمِينَ
"And
the retribution for an evil act is an evil one like it, but whoever pardons and
makes reconciliation - his reward is [due] from Allah. Indeed, He does not like
wrongdoers."
(QS.
Ash-Shura: Verse 40)
Tandaan po
natin na ang isang Muslim ay hindi nananakit ng kapwa Muslim, pisikal man o
salita...gayundin sa inosenteng hindi Muslim. Maliban lamang ang sinumang
gagamit ng dahas o armas na kung saan tayo po ay pinahintulutan ng Dakilang
Lumikha Allahﷻ na ipagtanggol o depensahan ang sarili at
ibang Muslim mula sa kapahamakan.
...and
Allâh Almighty knows best!
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